Who’s watching whom? At the heart of every erotic scene lies the gaze. It defines who holds control, who desires, and who is reduced to being seen. Yet too often, literature repeats an old choreography: a man looks, a woman is looked at, and the text follows his desire. Modern erotic writing demands a reversal … Continue reading Reversing the Gaze – How to Reimagine Voyeuristic Scenes
The body reveals what words conceal Shame is one of the strongest emotions you can bring to a scene. It burns hotter than anger and freezes faster than fear. Shame is not a thought — it’s a physical event: the sudden flush, the racing pulse, the dry throat. Only later comes the thought: What have … Continue reading Shame as a Driving Force – How Embarrassment Makes Characters Grow
Invisible Depths When you create a character, you first see only the tip of their life. Their smile, their clothes, their behavior in class or in bed. But like an iceberg, the decisive layers remain hidden beneath the surface. Family background, friendships, school, first love, sexual experiences – all of it shapes them, even if … Continue reading The Backstory of Your Characters: Why You Must Know the Whole Iceberg
What is the orgasm gap? When heterosexual couples have sex, men climax much more often than women. Studies suggest about 95 percent of men but only 65 percent of women regularly reach orgasm. This difference is called the orgasm gap. It is not a biological destiny but a result of taboos, lack of communication, and … Continue reading The Orgasm Gap: Why Women Are Often Left Out – and How Literature Can Help
Erotic literature does not only live from shame or taboo, but also from the moment of triumph. This moment emerges when a character overcomes inhibitions and embraces their body and desire. Often it is small gestures that precede great inner liberation. When Shame Turns into Strength Imagine a student standing naked before her partner for … Continue reading Triumph in Erotic Literature
The first paragraph is an invitation your readers can’t refuse. It decides whether they stay or move on. In erotic fiction, it carries extra weight, because tension and physicality pulse from the very start. The First Breath of a Story Picture this: a humid lecture hall in midsummer. The protagonist, a student with sweaty palms, … Continue reading The First Paragraph in Erotic Fiction
What does Benching mean? The digital dating jungle has produced a whole new vocabulary: ghosting, breadcrumbing, orbiting. Benching is one of the nastier terms. It means that someone finds you interesting—but not enough to commit to meeting up or starting a relationship. Instead, you’re placed on the metaphorical bench, like a substitute player in sports. … Continue reading Benching: When Online Dating Turns into a Waiting Game
Why Confusion Creates Tension In erotic stories, confusion is never just a side effect. It often drives the plot forward. A character who feels shame doesn’t always know whether to run away or to stay. Someone who suddenly finds themselves naked in front of others feels heat, insecurity, and at the same time a strange … Continue reading Confusion in ENF: When Feelings Start to Stumble
We all know them: those dialogues in erotic stories that sound like they’re from a bad movie. “Oh yes, that feels so good!” or “You’re so beautiful!” – and we just think: Does anyone really talk like that? The answer is no. Real people speak differently. And that’s exactly why many dialogues seem so wooden. … Continue reading Dialogues that get under your skin
Today we’re talking about a topic that is as old as lust itself – and yet so unknown that it can cause real surprises in your writing: figging. Maybe you’ve heard the term whispered before, between ropes, whips, and the soft click of handcuffs. Or maybe it’s completely new to you. Either way, here you’ll … Continue reading Figging – From Victorian punishment ritual to niche BDSM practice
