Category Archives: Writing erotica

We analyse texts from the fields of fiction and non-fiction and think about how high-quality eroticism can look today. We have no patent remedies, but put our thoughts and convictions on erotic literature on paper.
We regard the texts presented here as “work in progress”, which are constantly being expanded and updated as soon as we find new, exciting examples or topics. Ideally, over time this will create a pool of ideas for erotic literature for all those who write themselves.

The Orgasm Gap: Why Women Are Often Left Out – and How Literature Can Help

What is the orgasm gap? When heterosexual couples have sex, men climax much more often than women. Studies suggest about 95 percent of men but only 65 percent of women regularly reach orgasm. This difference is called the orgasm gap. It is not a biological destiny but a result of taboos, lack of communication, and … Continue reading The Orgasm Gap: Why Women Are Often Left Out – and How Literature Can Help

Benching: When Online Dating Turns into a Waiting Game

What does Benching mean? The digital dating jungle has produced a whole new vocabulary: ghosting, breadcrumbing, orbiting. Benching is one of the nastier terms. It means that someone finds you interesting—but not enough to commit to meeting up or starting a relationship. Instead, you’re placed on the metaphorical bench, like a substitute player in sports. … Continue reading Benching: When Online Dating Turns into a Waiting Game

Figging – From Victorian punishment ritual to niche BDSM practice

Today we’re talking about a topic that is as old as lust itself – and yet so unknown that it can cause real surprises in your writing: figging. Maybe you’ve heard the term whispered before, between ropes, whips, and the soft click of handcuffs. Or maybe it’s completely new to you. Either way, here you’ll … Continue reading Figging – From Victorian punishment ritual to niche BDSM practice

Intimacy – When Eroticism Becomes a Landscape of the Soul

Patrice Chéreau’s Intimacy (2001) is one of those films that redefined the boundaries between eroticism, art, and psychological drama. Its power stems in part from the literary foundation: Hanif Kureishi’s short story collection Intimacy (1998), which explores decaying relationships, sexual longing, and the fragility of human closeness. Chéreau didn’t simply adapt the material; he distilled … Continue reading Intimacy – When Eroticism Becomes a Landscape of the Soul

Sexuality, technology, and virtual intimacy

Eroticism is no longer just a physical experience between two people in the same room. Dating apps, AI partners, virtual reality, and chatbots are changing how we think about closeness, desire, and intimacy. For you as an author, this opens up new possibilities—but also pitfalls. The new spaces of intimacy Imagine a scene. A woman … Continue reading Sexuality, technology, and virtual intimacy

Rebellion and Sexuality in New Adult Fiction

Why Rebellion Is So Closely Linked to Sexuality When young adults begin shaping their own lives, sexuality almost always plays a central role. The first great love, testing the limits of the body, deliberately crossing moral lines – all of this is rebellion. It is defiance against parents, traditions, and what is considered “decent.” In … Continue reading Rebellion and Sexuality in New Adult Fiction