The gaze as possession Since art exists, the male gaze has shaped how women are seen.It frames, judges, illuminates — always from the outside.In painting, film, and literature, women’s bodies have been shown not as they feel, but as men imagine them. The traditional Male Gaze is not just a look; it’s a structure of … Continue reading Female Gaze vs. Male Gaze – How the Erotic Viewpoint Is Changing
What is the orgasm gap? When heterosexual couples have sex, men climax much more often than women. Studies suggest about 95 percent of men but only 65 percent of women regularly reach orgasm. This difference is called the orgasm gap. It is not a biological destiny but a result of taboos, lack of communication, and … Continue reading The Orgasm Gap: Why Women Are Often Left Out – and How Literature Can Help
What does Benching mean? The digital dating jungle has produced a whole new vocabulary: ghosting, breadcrumbing, orbiting. Benching is one of the nastier terms. It means that someone finds you interesting—but not enough to commit to meeting up or starting a relationship. Instead, you’re placed on the metaphorical bench, like a substitute player in sports. … Continue reading Benching: When Online Dating Turns into a Waiting Game
Today we’re talking about a topic that is as old as lust itself – and yet so unknown that it can cause real surprises in your writing: figging. Maybe you’ve heard the term whispered before, between ropes, whips, and the soft click of handcuffs. Or maybe it’s completely new to you. Either way, here you’ll … Continue reading Figging – From Victorian punishment ritual to niche BDSM practice
Eroticism is no longer just a physical experience between two people in the same room. Dating apps, AI partners, virtual reality, and chatbots are changing how we think about closeness, desire, and intimacy. For you as an author, this opens up new possibilities—but also pitfalls. The new spaces of intimacy Imagine a scene. A woman … Continue reading Sexuality, technology, and virtual intimacy
Do you write erotic stories and want to portray pegging in an authentic and exciting way? Great, you’ve come to the right place! Pegging is a topic that combines intimacy, trust, and power dynamics in a fascinating way. It offers you, as an author, the chance to delve deep into the emotions and physicality of … Continue reading Pegging in erotic literature
Sometimes all it takes is a glance in the refrigerator, and a titillating idea immediately springs to mind. Vegetables and fruit as objects of desire—in the imagination of authors, they have long been classics. But anyone who thinks that the fun ends with choosing the right banana is mistaken. Condoms are always at the ready—as … Continue reading Why Condoms Matter When Using Food
Here is a 10-day training program specifically for authors who want to learn how to write precise, visual, yet literarily sophisticated close-up descriptions. Each day’s assignment builds on the previous one and takes about 20–30 minutes to complete. Day 1 – Single-Part Study: Choose a hand or foot. Write down at least five observable traits … Continue reading 10-Day Closeup Training for Authors
Ever heard of edible underwear? It’s a wild concept blending fashion, erotica, and indulgence in a unique way. Bianca Censori, Kanye West’s wife, recently made headlines in New York wearing something like this. In this blog post, we dive into the world of edible underwear—what it’s made of, where to get it, and how it … Continue reading Edible Underwear: Between Art, Provocation, and Sensuality
Joseph Campbell’s hero’s journey features the central figure of the mentor – that wise presence who guides the protagonist through their transformative journey. In erotic literature, however, this archetype shows a striking imbalance: while male mentors appear frequently, female mentors are a rare phenomenon. This asymmetry raises fundamental questions about gender roles, power structures, and … Continue reading The Role of the Female Mentor in Erotic Literature
