All posts by Sandra Manther

Geboren 1981 in Krefeld. Studierte Mediendesign an der hdpk Berlin. Der Liebe wegen ging sie nach Hamburg, wo sie heute als Webdesgnerin in einer bekannten Werbeagentur arbeitet. Sie lebt mit ihrem Mann Marc und den Katzen Mandu und Tharsis in einem Haus im Westen der Stadt.

Figging – From Victorian punishment ritual to niche BDSM practice

Today we’re talking about a topic that is as old as lust itself – and yet so unknown that it can cause real surprises in your writing: figging. Maybe you’ve heard the term whispered before, between ropes, whips, and the soft click of handcuffs. Or maybe it’s completely new to you. Either way, here you’ll … Continue reading Figging – From Victorian punishment ritual to niche BDSM practice

Sexuality, technology, and virtual intimacy

Eroticism is no longer just a physical experience between two people in the same room. Dating apps, AI partners, virtual reality, and chatbots are changing how we think about closeness, desire, and intimacy. For you as an author, this opens up new possibilities—but also pitfalls. The new spaces of intimacy Imagine a scene. A woman … Continue reading Sexuality, technology, and virtual intimacy

Why Condoms Matter When Using Food

Sometimes all it takes is a glance in the refrigerator, and a titillating idea immediately springs to mind. Vegetables and fruit as objects of desire—in the imagination of authors, they have long been classics. But anyone who thinks that the fun ends with choosing the right banana is mistaken. Condoms are always at the ready—as … Continue reading Why Condoms Matter When Using Food

10-Day Closeup Training for Authors

Here is a 10-day training program specifically for authors who want to learn how to write precise, visual, yet literarily sophisticated close-up descriptions. Each day’s assignment builds on the previous one and takes about 20–30 minutes to complete. Day 1 – Single-Part Study: Choose a hand or foot. Write down at least five observable traits … Continue reading 10-Day Closeup Training for Authors

Edible Underwear: Between Art, Provocation, and Sensuality

Ever heard of edible underwear? It’s a wild concept blending fashion, erotica, and indulgence in a unique way. Bianca Censori, Kanye West’s wife, recently made headlines in New York wearing something like this. In this blog post, we dive into the world of edible underwear—what it’s made of, where to get it, and how it … Continue reading Edible Underwear: Between Art, Provocation, and Sensuality

The Role of the Female Mentor in Erotic Literature

Joseph Campbell’s hero’s journey features the central figure of the mentor – that wise presence who guides the protagonist through their transformative journey. In erotic literature, however, this archetype shows a striking imbalance: while male mentors appear frequently, female mentors are a rare phenomenon. This asymmetry raises fundamental questions about gender roles, power structures, and … Continue reading The Role of the Female Mentor in Erotic Literature

Ben Wa Balls – When a Small Object Creates a Big Impact

Ben Wa balls, also known as love balls or Kegel balls, are small, smooth spheres designed to be worn inside the vagina. They can be made of metal, glass, silicone, or ABS plastic, sometimes connected by a cord for easy removal. Many contain an inner weight that shifts with movement, creating a subtle, rhythmic vibration—without … Continue reading Ben Wa Balls – When a Small Object Creates a Big Impact

How Sororities Push the Boundaries – and Still Stay “Within the Rules”

Anyone following official or unofficial sorority Instagram accounts during Rush Week will notice one striking detail: young women, perfectly styled, lit, and posed – and with flushed faces. That flush is rarely just makeup or summer heat. Often, it’s a giveaway that the situation makes them uncomfortable. The pose is perfect, the smile is camera-ready, … Continue reading How Sororities Push the Boundaries – and Still Stay “Within the Rules”