As an erotica author, it’s always important to keep your protagonists’ lovemaking exciting and fresh. Aside from the tried-and-true techniques of role-playing and BDSM, you may be looking for ways to spice up their bedroom adventures in a different way. Then wax play might be just the thing for you! Wax play is a playful introduction to hot sensations – literally! It involves pouring warm (but not too hot!) wax onto any part of the body to create a pleasurable sensation. When you remove the hardened wax from each other’s bodies, each wax experience can be completely unique.
Wax play is a form of BDSM that uses hot wax to enhance sexual pleasure. It can be used by both dominants and submissives, as the sensation of hot wax on the skin can be erotic and extremely satisfying. Different types of candles can be used, but the most popular are kerosene, soy, and beeswax. Beeswax burns at the hottest temperature, while soy wax burns at a lower temperature. Kerosene is somewhere in the middle. A good tip is to drizzle some wax on your hand first to get a feel for the temperature.
There are also candles that are specially designed for wax play. They have a lower melting point, which reduces the risk of burns. They come in a wide variety of colors and scents, so there is plenty of choice for erotic play.
Before you start playing with wax, think about which parts of your body you want to wax. Good areas for beginners are the stomach, buttocks and back. Avoid the face and eyes, as waxing in these areas can cause serious discomfort or even injury. Also avoid dripping wax on hairy areas of the body, as removing the wax can be painful and cause hair loss. Body orifices and mucous membranes should also be avoided.
If you are more experienced in SM, the nipples or genital area may come to mind as a rewarding target for wax play. Keep in mind, however, that these areas are particularly sensitive to pain. They should not be covered with wax until you have gained enough experience with waxing temperature and body distance. To reduce the risk of burns, keep the wax candle thirty to fifty centimeters from your skin, at least at first. You can experiment with smaller distances later.
Once the wax reaches the skin, it begins to cool, causing a tingling, warming sensation. The strength of this sensation depends on the temperature of the wax and your personal tolerance. Some people find the sensation erotic and soothing, while others find it uncomfortable. It is important to start with a small amount of wax and gradually increase the amount as you feel more comfortable.
Remember that wax play is not for everyone, so talk to your partner before trying it. It’s important that both partners agree before you try it. If either partner feels discomfort or pain, you should stop immediately. It is also important to agree on a safe word before you start, so that either partner can stop at any time.
Wax play can be a fun and exciting way to spice up your love life. But before you get started, it’s important to understand the basics, how it works, and to take the necessary precautions to ensure safety. By following the guidelines outlined in this blog post, you and your partner can safely explore the sensual and erotic pleasures of wax play. Always remember to communicate your consent and to stop if either partner feels discomfort or pain.
